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The Identity Shift to Motherhood

Ali Vogt, MFT

Becoming a parent is a profound experience that can reshape your sense of self. It's common for new moms to feel like they've lost part of their old identity, as priorities and responsibilities shift dramatically. This identity change can be challenging to navigate.

It's important to give yourself time and space to adjust to your new role as a mother. The transition to parenthood is a major life event, and it's normal to feel a bit lost or uncertain at first. Don't be too hard on yourself - your identity is simply evolving to include this incredibly meaningful new dimension.



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Practical tips for managing the ups and downs:

  • Keep a journal to process your feelings about this identity shift. Writing can be a helpful outlet.

  • Make time for activities that are just for you, even if it's just 15 minutes a day. Read, take a bath, or simply sit in silence.

  • Lean on your support system, whether that's your partner, family, friends, or a new moms group. Sharing your experiences can help you feel less alone.

  • Be gentle with yourself. Motherhood is a learning curve, and there's no perfect way to "do it right." Focus on what feels good for you and your baby.


Seeking support can make a big difference. Connecting with other new moms, whether through an online community or local meetup group, can help you feel less alone. Organizations like Postpartum Support International also offer valuable resources and tips for managing the identity changes of early motherhood.


Above all, be kind to yourself. Motherhood is a journey, and your sense of self will continue to shift and grow. Trust that you'll find your footing, and that the beautiful, powerful identity of "mom" will become a core part of who you are.

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